2. IS HE A WHORE? YES HE IS!
When it comes down to it, all men a whores.
So I’m sitting here, about to log into my email account when I see this smiling picture of a man with the following caption: “Girlfriend Needed. No games. Just real guys looking for a faithful woman.” Oh, really! A faithful woman! What about a faithful man? Where are the faithful men? Let me tell you! There aren’t any. Even the guy you think you could trust; the guy who is shy and comes across like the perfect one. The one you have that gut feeling about and who makes you think, “He’s good looking, but he is not a cheater.” He does not have that ‘woman crazy’ look or that macho demeanor where he flirts with every girl or nearly falls out of his chair wringing his neck looking in the direction of some woman walking by. You actually feel that you can trust this guy until you find out that there isn’t a guy in this world who will not cheat and if you got a guy you love and he does you wrong, you might-as-well stay with him because the next one will just do you wrong as well.
So here is my story about that guy. That perfect guy I trusted. That shy guy who I thought would never do me wrong. And then you find out that all the warning bells you silenced over the years, all of the sudden are going off all at once. The noise in my head is deafening. It’s a daily struggle to keep my sanity. And yet, he’s right here, sitting across from me and he has no clue how I’m dogging him. Face it, I keep my smile and he is happy. There is no reason to fight since that will do nothing but drive him away.
For the past four months, I have been trying to block the realization that the man I trusted has not been trustworthy. We have been together for several years but most of that time we spent living apart. Despite the distance, I trusted him, though I would question him about his fidelity just to let him know that I was on my toes and wasn’t quite letting my guards down. But each time I spoke to him, he reassured me there was nothing to worry about. Men! Such convincing liars!
There were many signs that he was not faithful but each came with a plausible explanation. “Why is there a condom in the glove compartment of our new car?” “Oh, you know, they give them away on the street and I just took it and threw it in there.” Or the time when I cleaned the entire house, top to bottom, and came back a couple of months later to find condoms in drawers, dressers, pockets, you name it! Again, all with an explanation of them having been there for a long time despite the manufacturer date stamp being only a couple of months old. And again, I forgave because he convinced me by lying. His thing is to put the blame back on me. He is an expert on doing that. When he got done with me, I swear he wanted me to believe I brought the condoms in the house myself. But the worst place I found a pack of condoms at was in the same pocket as he kept a ring he had bought for my birthday. Of course, each time I looked at the ring after that, I thought about those condoms and how he lied and said he had never seen the package. After one-and-a-half years, I finally had to take the ring off especially since I now had solid prove that he had been fucking around on me. And again, he is lying about this too.
So what was the solid prove? Modern technology! I think that if you are planning on cheating on your significant other in today’s day you better understand that the whole world is connected and it is virtually impossible to carry on a double life for any amount of time. Besides checking the obvious, phone and e-mails, social media will connect people quickly and of you have a phone number, you can usually match it with a profile page. Once you have that, it is easy to check to see if there are some connections or even pictures. If you are sure that the person you suspect to be your guys ‘other’ she may not know about you and will be more than willing to have a chat with you.
I will tell you my story soon ...
When it comes down to it, all men a whores.
So I’m sitting here, about to log into my email account when I see this smiling picture of a man with the following caption: “Girlfriend Needed. No games. Just real guys looking for a faithful woman.” Oh, really! A faithful woman! What about a faithful man? Where are the faithful men? Let me tell you! There aren’t any. Even the guy you think you could trust; the guy who is shy and comes across like the perfect one. The one you have that gut feeling about and who makes you think, “He’s good looking, but he is not a cheater.” He does not have that ‘woman crazy’ look or that macho demeanor where he flirts with every girl or nearly falls out of his chair wringing his neck looking in the direction of some woman walking by. You actually feel that you can trust this guy until you find out that there isn’t a guy in this world who will not cheat and if you got a guy you love and he does you wrong, you might-as-well stay with him because the next one will just do you wrong as well.
So here is my story about that guy. That perfect guy I trusted. That shy guy who I thought would never do me wrong. And then you find out that all the warning bells you silenced over the years, all of the sudden are going off all at once. The noise in my head is deafening. It’s a daily struggle to keep my sanity. And yet, he’s right here, sitting across from me and he has no clue how I’m dogging him. Face it, I keep my smile and he is happy. There is no reason to fight since that will do nothing but drive him away.
For the past four months, I have been trying to block the realization that the man I trusted has not been trustworthy. We have been together for several years but most of that time we spent living apart. Despite the distance, I trusted him, though I would question him about his fidelity just to let him know that I was on my toes and wasn’t quite letting my guards down. But each time I spoke to him, he reassured me there was nothing to worry about. Men! Such convincing liars!
There were many signs that he was not faithful but each came with a plausible explanation. “Why is there a condom in the glove compartment of our new car?” “Oh, you know, they give them away on the street and I just took it and threw it in there.” Or the time when I cleaned the entire house, top to bottom, and came back a couple of months later to find condoms in drawers, dressers, pockets, you name it! Again, all with an explanation of them having been there for a long time despite the manufacturer date stamp being only a couple of months old. And again, I forgave because he convinced me by lying. His thing is to put the blame back on me. He is an expert on doing that. When he got done with me, I swear he wanted me to believe I brought the condoms in the house myself. But the worst place I found a pack of condoms at was in the same pocket as he kept a ring he had bought for my birthday. Of course, each time I looked at the ring after that, I thought about those condoms and how he lied and said he had never seen the package. After one-and-a-half years, I finally had to take the ring off especially since I now had solid prove that he had been fucking around on me. And again, he is lying about this too.
So what was the solid prove? Modern technology! I think that if you are planning on cheating on your significant other in today’s day you better understand that the whole world is connected and it is virtually impossible to carry on a double life for any amount of time. Besides checking the obvious, phone and e-mails, social media will connect people quickly and of you have a phone number, you can usually match it with a profile page. Once you have that, it is easy to check to see if there are some connections or even pictures. If you are sure that the person you suspect to be your guys ‘other’ she may not know about you and will be more than willing to have a chat with you.
I will tell you my story soon ...
